Are you planning to pop that fateful question to your girlfriend and are having nightmares about how to do it? Take heart— no matter where it takes place or how it’s done, a marriage proposal by its very nature is romance personified, guaranteed to melt a woman’s heart! That is assuming, of course, that the “proposer” and the “proposee” are on the same page with their feelings for each other! But, at this stage of the game, you must be already pretty clued in, right?
Plan it right!
However, if you do want to make this auspicious occasion even more so, you need to think it through a bit. There are literally hundreds of proposal scenario ideas floating around in the cyber world, ranging from the downright wacky and life-endangering (will your sweetheart actually hear you saying “will you marry me” while skydiving, snorkeling, or clinging to a precipitous mountain top?) to logistical ordeals costing you a down payment on your first home together.
Frankly, most women are less into the super creative adventure scenario than into “wow, he really knows me” approach when it comes to proposals. So, think about what her personality and style is, her likes and dislikes, and what makes her bubble with excitement, and fashion your proposal setting accordingly.
Here are some basic personality/proposal scenario categories to get you thinking…
The Traditional Girlfriend
Scenario: An expensive, exclusive restaurant she’s always wanted to go to, with pre-arranged ring delivery by a white-gloved waiter, in a champagne glass or on a desert plate with that proverbial question inscribed in chocolate. This is an old standby, but still one with great pedigree and effectiveness!
The Outgoing, Social Girlfriend
Scenario: While out for a night of dancing, arrange with the DJ to pass you the mic so you can dedicate a song to her — her current favorite song or something from a romantic movie she loved —like Celine Dion’s “My Heart Will Go On" from "Titanic" (although that may be a bit awkward, considering the fate of the lovers in the film). Then at the end of the song, drop on your knee and propose on the dance floor.
The Outdoorsy/Nature Girlfriend
Scenario: Do some research about the best spots in your locale — preferably ones that include breathtaking views with mountain peaks and romantic waterfalls. Prepare a picnic basket that includes champagne and her favorite food. Stealthily, place the ring under an interesting rock and point it out to her. And you know the rest…
The Romantic Girlfriend
Re-enact a proposal scene from her favorite romantic movie or book. Just be careful that your selection does not require some unrealizable setups! Recreating 19th century England to propose to her as Mr. Darcy did to Elizabeth in Austen’s Pride and Prejudice, may be a bit unrealistic!
But, for instance, in The Wedding Singer Adam Sandler professes his love for Drew Barrymore by serenading her with a personalized song "Grow Old with You.” If you’re musically inclined, a song written especially for your girlfriend to serve as a proposal will definitely melt her romantic heart!
The Family Girlfriend
Scenario: If you’re fairly sure about her “yes” and her family has a favorable outlook on you, proposing at the end of a family dinner will make her —and them —love you even more. But, if you’re not that sure about either one or the other, don’t do it – it may prove to be a mighty awkward situation!
The Minimalist “No Fuss” Girlfriend
Scenario: The spot you first met– that’s assuming you met somewhere appropriate and non-digital. But, if that’s the case, consider instead doing a night at home, cooking her favorite dishes (bonus points if you don’t cook, because of the special effort). You may want to skip the dessert and later that night, slip the ring on her finger while she is sleeping. Once she spots the sparkler, serve champagne and strawberries to celebrate!
The Adventurous Girlfriend
Scenario: A vacation get-away in a warm climate. Your options here are many! From a walk on a dusky, deserted beach (the least risky, possibly the most romantic setting with the soft lapping of the waves and the twilight glow), to a knee drop at an ancient fountain or monument, to that “I’m glad I got travel insurance” option involving skydiving, snorkeling or a hot air balloon, if you must!
A marriage proposal is always romantic and memorable, as long as it involves a ring and an element of surprise, is centered around her favorite pastime or interest, and ideally executed a bended knee (still a treasured fantasy for most women!).
Really, how much more romantic can it get than asking someone to be your partner for life, “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part”? Ok, so maybe not so much when it happens as she is holding that dreaded drugstore test stick signaling an awesome event in nine months, but even under these circumstances, it will remain a very poignant and memorable moment!