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Asking For Her Hand

Commonly, we hear the exciting details of how marriage proposals unfold. However, we rarely hear the man’s perspective and how he got permission to "ask for your hand". InsideWeddings spotlights how Patrick Deyhle got permission to marry Vanessa Abreu, who is now his wife. via Inside Weddings "Patrick Deyhle confesses that the first time he laid eyes on Vanessa Abreu, he knew he would one day ask her to be his wife. Before he could do so, however, he would have to have a very important and intimidating conversation with the other man in her life: her father. Here's how Patrick tells it: 'Vanessa's family is very traditional Portuguese, and I was also raised to believe that you don't propose without getting the father’s permission first. This combination of factors necessitated my decision to ask permission. Vanessa's father is somewhat of a power player in the community, and although we have a fantastic relationship, I was extremely nervous about asking his permission. Also, I had a sense that everyone in the family was starting to wonder when I would propose, so I had to be extra secretive. I called her father and told him to meet me at his favorite restaurant so we could have a chat. He probably knew what I was going to ask, because at the time it was not common for us to meet for drinks. When I arrived, he had a table all set up for us, with appetizers, wine, and everything. I had driven myself into a nervous frenzy by then. We had barely sat down before I told him that I loved his daughter and wanted to ask his permission to marry her. Before I finished speaking, he started nodding and said that he would love having me as an addition to the family. It was fairly emotional, and without a doubt I was more nervous for that event than I was for the actual proposal!'"

Nontraditional Wedding Parties

Traditionally, many couples like to incorporate several people in their wedding parties. These individuals carry the titles, groomsmen, bridesmaids, best man and maid of honor, and are commonly the closest to the married couple-to-be. Untraditionally, the Kettle’s appointed thirty-six of their closest friends and family to complete their wedding party. The unique wedding is a way to represent all the important people in their lives and the core support to their love story. Via WeddingBee ( “That wedding had 34 people. Ours is just shy of that. We are including everyone in our count because they’re all important. Mr. Kettle and I both have a best man and maid of honor. So that’s four. He has eight more groomsmen, bringing our total to 12. I have two more men standing up with me, which brings our total to 14. I also have six more bridesmaids, bringing our total to 20. Add in two junior bridesmaids, and we’re at 22. Then two ring bearers and two flower girls, and we’re at 26. Tack on three hostesses and two ushers, and the number is now 31. Don’t forget our two, yes two, officiants, and we’re at 33. Don’t forget Daddy Kettle, Mr. Kettle, and me. That makes 36! Yup. Thirty-six people. I want to take this time to answer comments I’ve gotten on previous posts. The question was about our hostesses and ushers and what exactly they are. Some people double groomsmen as ushers, helping to seat people as they arrive to the ceremony. That’s not the case with us. Momma Kettle, ever the etiquette stickler (I get it honest, you know, so I know exactly what to rebel against), tells us we should have one usher/hostess for every 50 guests. This is particularly important when our venue is at a house that has thousands of square feet spread over three stories. We’ll need people to help get all those people into the ballroom conservatory for the ceremony, out to the rest of the house for cocktail hour, then back into the ballroom for the reception. They’ll need to know where to sit and when. The mansion provides staff to do this, but having extra people on hand could only help out. Think of a combination between a hostess at a restaurant and a regular usher at a wedding, and that’s what our hostesses and ushers will be. Why not make them honorary bridesmaids and groomsmen? Well, because then they’d get their names on the programs and we’d get no work out of them! Just kidding, but I know they’d want to be involved more than just in name. One of our hostesses is my niece, Hostess Cheery, who’s 19 and too old to be a junior bridesmaid. The other is a high school girl I mentor, Hostess High, who’s friendly with Mr. Kettle ever since they were both in the wedding I met Mr. Kettle at last summer. The third is one of his nieces, FNIL Sniffles, who’s in college and is also too old to be a junior bridesmaid. One of our ushers is my god-brother and the other is Mr. Kettle’s cousin. They’re both in high school. Our wedding has been used as a tool to accommodate all our close family and friends that have been in our lives for a long time. Besides the flowers girls and ring bearers who are both six years old, we’ve known everybody in our wedding party at least 10 years (including the officiants). So, yeah, there are a lot of folks, but they’re our close friends. We’re both just super friendly people who are close to our families. It happens. Soooo many people. Judging by the engagement party, I know our wedding will be exactly what we want: a big party that includes all the people we love and cherish. I will now stop alluding to our engagement party and actually give recaps in my next posts.”


Hurricane Irene could taint Wedding Plans

With all of the wild occurrences the east coast is experiencing, Irene Rios and David Knauf are still hopeful about their wedding plans as Hurricane Irene sets in – uninvited! Today.msnbc.msn via features the soon-to-be-married couple scrambling to decide on what to do about their wedding and 120 guests for Sunday, August 28th. Via By Jeff Saperstone They have the same name and apparently they have the same plans to head to the shoreline on Sunday. Irene Rios, a West Haven, Conn. woman who shares the same name as the hurricane barreling up the eastern seaboard, is supposed to get married to her fiancé on Sunday afternoon at Savin Rock, overlooking picturesque Long Island Sound. Hurricane Irene will alter their plans. “It looked like Hurricane Irene wanted to come to Irene’s wedding,” Irene's fiancé, David Knauf, said. The couple has been planning the outdoor shoreline wedding for more than a year now. “I’m very disappointed and it was really bothering me the past few days,” Rios said. “I’ve been watching the weather like crazy.” She even wrote an e-mail to NBC Connecticut Chief Meteorologist Brad Field, asking what they should do. “Brad was very kind, I so appreciate him reaching out to us,” Rios said. “He said that we would all be affected, but the severity is not known at this time.” The backup plan is to move the ceremony and all 120 guests indoors to the conference center. The couple is hopeful the storm doesn’t force evacuations, which could force them to further change their plans. “It’s sort of got us on the edge of our seats,” Knauf said. Guests are coming in from all over the country. They’re just crossing their fingers that one of them doesn’t show up. “An uninvited guest,” Rios said while smiling. “Irene is uninvited to Irene’s wedding.” What would you do if your wedding and a hurricane took place on the same day?

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Introducing the Gottlieb & Sons' Custom Ring Finder

In order to give couples a very personalized ring shopping experience oneline, Gottlieb & Sons has add interactive tools and new social media functions to their website.

Using the innovative custom ring finder, you will now be able to quickly and easily focus in on styles from the broad Gottlieb & Sons collection that best matches your personalities and tastes.

Utilizing a series of “faders” or slide tools, you are able to pan from wedding-related preference variables such as Wedding Dress style, Music tastes, Wedding location and Honeymoon destination, to help you quickly identify ring styles that reflect your personality. As you adjust the faders, ring suggestions become visible, corresponding to the unique combination of variables selected by you.

The site also features recommendation software that will suggest additional like styles you might consider once an initial selection has been made.

Additional interactive elements of the site include:

The “Jewelry Box” where you can save favored ring styles selected from the site. The “Jewelry Box” function will also allow you to share your choices with others through a password protected section and enable family and friends to post comments and feedback on their favorites.

And the retailer locator function, which helps to identify jewelers in your area that carry your custom selection and store's locations via Google maps.



Rewriting the Textbook Wedding Proposal

Most wedding proposal stories begin and end the same. The anxious boy is eagerly rehearsing the special words drawn up in his head, while the unsuspecting girl sits ideally by until releasing a squeal of delight and confirmation once the ring is placed on her finger.

While that may be the case for some couples, at Gottlieb & Sons we understand that not all couples are alike and some make a point to take the extra step to ensure that their proposals are one of a kind.

Take a look at our favorite tech savvy wedding proposals that made it into our hall of fame.

Couples seem to be using all different kind of avenues to pop the question. Mashable posted one of the most unique proposals we've seen using Twitter and the Old Spice Guy. A fan named Johannes S. Beals tweeted, “Can U Ask my girlfriend to marry me? Her name is Angela A. Hutt-Chamberlin” to Old Spice. The following video popped up on YouTube within an hour, and Old Spice tweeted it at Beals. The fan tweeted within hours that she’d agreed to marry him.

Google employee Michael Weiss-Malik wasn’t satisfied with his proposal 1.0 (“simple heart-felt words exchanged during a quiet night at home”), so the 2.0 version took advantage of Google’s Street View pass near the Google offices. Sadly, it has now been replaced with updated imagery, but the memory lives on.

One lucky girl found the deal of a lifetime on Groupon, the online shopping site. Dana, a Cincinnati Groupon fanatic, received a special surprise when she logged to purse the daily shopping deals. The deal of the day for her was a marriage proposal from the now fiancé Greg, who contacted Groupon staff directly to make the proposal happen.


Why Wait? Short Engagements Can Lead to Happiness

via USA Today

As the royal engagement draws to a close this April, more couples are adapting Will and Kate's approach to weddings. are beginning to realize the benefits of a brief engagement period.


As Olivia Barker described in her recent USA Today article, modern day couples are beginning to realized the benefits of a shorter engagement and have begun to abandon drawn-out wedding planning.


"We just really didn't see the point in waiting when we knew what we wanted," says Sabartinelli, 26, a cultural arts coordinator for Grand Junction.


She is one of a bevy of brides bucking her generation's trend toward engagements that can last as long as, well, many marriages. Consider the most famous contemporary courtship of them all: Kate Middleton and Prince William, who will have been betrothed all of six months by the time they say "I do" on April 29.


With these rapidly arranged nuptials, no shotgun is required. (Even though friends and family often insist on probing: "You sure you're not pregnant?") And couples aren't necessarily hastening their march to the altar for old-fashioned military or religious reasons.


Instead, these abbreviated engagements reflect modern mating trends: couples who date, if not live together, for years and years, to the extent that a protracted period between the proposal and the ceremony seems pointless (it's not as if William and Kate need time to get to know each other). Then there are older, sometimes second-time brides and grooms with the wisdom of past relationships under their garter belts who are eager to get other milestones, like baby-making, going.


And then there are couples quietly rebelling against an industry that they say pressures them to spend 14 to 16 months — the average engagement length, according to a 2009 Conde Nast American wedding study — saving up for their dream day. (Average cost: $28,082, according to the same report.) Still other couples say it's not the day they're out to emphasize, but the years that come after.


"We put a lot of time and effort into thinking and talking about our marriage as opposed to thinking and talking about our wedding," says Brandy Egan, 37, a nurse from Drexel Hill, Pa., who married her husband, Matt, last May after a five-month engagement.


Not only are the newly engaged realizing the significance of taking the focus off of the wedding ceremony and repositioning the importance on to the marriage itself, but many also want their nuptials to reflect their own generation and personality as a couple.


"For most people, getting engaged is not a significant change in their status in life," Roney says, vs. a generation or so ago, when it was the time to make a commitment public and introduce future in-laws. Now, by the time many grooms get on bended knee, "all that's already happened." Heck, some couples have even bought a house together. Or had kids together. After, say, six years, two dogs, one house and one child, "it's hard for an engagement to mean anything special," Roney says. So why not shrink it to its most basic components?


"At the heart of every wedding is telling your own story," says Millie Martini Bratten, editor in chief of Brides magazine. "Some people's vision is very simple": a cozy City Hall ceremony plus restaurant party, for example, or an intimate destination event in the Caribbean. Neither scenario requires months of preparation. The goal in these cases is "getting people together and having a lovely party," Bratten says, "but not a big party with spectacular decor."


One ideal element of a short sprint down the aisle can be the absence of stress from the heightened expectations that can build during a lengthy planning period.


"The long engagement can glamorize what a wedding is," Sabartinelli says. When it came to her 125-guest affair, "I was so tired. I didn't eat. I met way too many people I didn't know. The whole night is just a blur now. I keep thinking that if I had had a year-long engagement, I think I would have felt pretty disappointed the next day, going, 'I did all that work for this?' "


Britani Hamill has sensed such misplaced priorities among her peers. "People get so caught up in wedding planning. They're kind of putting on a show for everyone else," says the 24-year-old dental assistant, whose July wedding in Arlington, Texas, comes just shy of six months after her fianc, Trent Blanchard, proposed. Friends and family are saying, " 'You don't have to rush into this,' and I'm like, 'We haven't rushed into anything!' " The pair have been dating for nine years. (Hamill is thrilled that she shares a wedding timetable with William and Kate. "Finally, someone in the public eye is getting this thing over with!")


Whether it is a 2 years or 2 month engagement, the transparent message seems to be that engaged couples are just excited to begin their lives together as husband and wife.


How long of an engagement period would suit your relationship and personality style?


What Kind of Bride Are You?

What Kind of Bride Are You?

Traditional? Fairy tale-esque? Outdoorsy? Ultra mod?

Each bride has her own personal wedding style. Follow the link below to Glamour Magazine's online quiz to find out which type you're most like, and then snag a few ideas for planning your perfect wedding!

Real Wedding Inspiration

With so many inspiring weddings posted on the web these days, we wanted to spotlight a few from of our favorite wedding blogs.

All of the weddings below offer a great look at special elements and DIY creations that made each wedding truely unique for the couples.

Which elements are your favorite?

Localized Wedding Stationery

Brooklyn-based design house, Swiss Cottage Designs created a personalized wedding suite for a Chicago couple with intertwined elements of their favorite hometown landmarks, songs and baseball team.

Crossword Puzzle Table Setting

Jillian and her groom created customized crossword puzzles on the back of the thank you's at each place setting. Such an interesting way to do something fun while waiting for dinner.

via Style Me Pretty

Old World Circus Fare

Erin and Brent, along with their families took over a year to custom make almost all of the wedding decor (including her dress!). They decided to carry the vintage circus theme all the way to their food and drink menues.

via Green Wedding Shoes

Creative Ceremony Backdrop

Inspired by something her wedding planners (The Wedding Company, Kansas City) had seen in the windows of Anthropologie, Bethany handcrafted the whimsical backdrop for her ceremony using receipt paper, foam board and a staple gun.

via 100 Layer Cake


How To: Submit Wedding Annoucement to Newspapers

Congratulations, you are engaged! Now it's time to spread the news about your pending nuptuals in print.

Couples have been putting their wedding announcements in the newspaper long before Facebook took over the world. Having your wedding photograph printed in the newspaper is an honor and still a hot commodity in today's world as a sign of prestige to make it into a newspaper's weddings section, and couples clamor for the opportunity.

Wedding announcement are typically a formal write-up published in local or national newspapers that shares the details of your nuptials. The requirements may vary from paper to paper, but the intention is the same for them all: getting your good news out into the world!

While you may already know which newspapers you want to print your announcement, it's best to do your research. Maybe you only want to go local -- or just national. Once you've narrowed down your selections, get a list of requirements from the newspapers right away. You need to know the word limit, picture size, deadlines and fees.

Different publications also require various details to be included in their announcements, so be informed before you start writing. Not only do you have to provide extensive background information on the newlyweds and their parents, but there are very particular requirements about photographic submissions as well.

We have pulled together a few easy tips to follow for submitting wedding details and images to newspapers

Instructions for Submitting Your Wedding Announcements

1. Select one or two newspapers in your region to which you will submit your wedding information. You'll probably choose a local paper from your hometown and your spouse's (especially if you and your mate's families live in different cities). You might even consider a national newspaper or choose to publish an announcement in your college newsletter.

2. Ask if there is a standard form for you to fill out that will cover the basic details. For many newspapers, all you have to do is submit your information and your announcement will be published, but this is not the case for brides wanting ink in the New York Times - the ultimate wedding annoucement in the Sunday Styles section.

3. Provide relevant details such as your wedding date, location, the bride's maiden name, your parents names and city of residence and where you will live once you are married.

4. Consider including the names and cities of residence of your wedding attendants and where you will go on your honeymoon.

5. Add background information such as where you each grew up, where you went to school and where you now work.

6. Include a daytime and evening phone number in case the editor has any questions or wants more information.

7. Include a photograph with your name and phone number on the back. Ask the paper what size and quality of photograph they prefer. Some accept only black and white, while others will take color.

8. Provide a stamped self-addressed envelope if you want your photograph back. (Since photographs can easily get misplaced in the newsroom, it is best to send a copy, not an original.)

Below is a list of several popular newspapers across the country for sumbitting wedding annoucements:

New York/New Jersey/Pennsylvania area:

Daily News

The New York Times

The Philadelphia Inquirer/Philadelphia Daily News

Star-Ledger (New Jersey)

New England area:

Boston Globe

Boston Herald - To receive form, call (617)786-7026 or (800)972-5070.

Cape Cod Times

Southeast area:

Baltimore Sun

Miami Herald - Contact (305) 350-2111 for submission form.

St. Petersburg Times - Wedding forms can be obtained by calling 1-800-333-7505, ext. 8215.

The Washington Post

Midwest area:

Milwaukee Journal Sentinel publishes both engagement and wedding announcements in the classified section and online. They charge $99 for a 5 line ad with color photo plus publication online. 

Chicago Tribune

Chicago Sun-Times - For instructions to place a wedding announcement call (312)321-2345.

Detroit Free Press

Star Tribune (Minneapolis)

The Plain Dealer (Cleveland)

Southwest area:


The Arizona Republic

The Dallas Morning News - Contact (214) 977-8408 for instructions on how to submit announcement.

Houston Chronicle

West Coast area:

Los Angeles Times

The Oregonian

Sacramento Bee - In addition to using the form online, you can also call (916)321-1326 for more information.

The San Diego Union-Tribune

San Francisco Chronicle

San Jose Mercury News - To have a submission form sent to you, call the Celebrations Coordinator at (408) 920-5984, or email

The Seattle Times


Several magazines and websites also spotlight photos from real weddings. Check out our list of top bridal outlets that accept submissions:

Brides (local and online at

The Knot

Martha Stewart Weddings

Wedding Style Magazines

Style Me Pretty

100 Layer Cake

Once Wed


Brooklyn Bride

Sources for article:

- - "Wedding Announcements: Contacts at Major Papers." March 18, 2009. (

- Martha Stewart - "Announcements - the Engagement." (

- eHow - "How to Submit a Wedding Annoucement to a Newspaper." (

- Massachuttes Wedding Guide - "Engagement/Wedding Annoucements." (