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Traditionally, many couples like to incorporate several people in their wedding parties. These individuals carry the titles, groomsmen, bridesmaids, best man and maid of honor, and are commonly the closest to the married couple-to-be. Untraditionally, the Kettle’s appointed thirty-six of their closest friends and family to complete their wedding party. The unique wedding is a way to represent all the important people in their lives and the core support to their love story. Via WeddingBee ( “That wedding had 34 people. Ours is just shy of that. We are including everyone in our count because they’re all important. Mr. Kettle and I both have a best man and maid of honor. So that’s four. He has eight more groomsmen, bringing our total to 12. I have two more men standing up with me, which brings our total to 14. I also have six more bridesmaids, bringing our total to 20. Add in two junior bridesmaids, and we’re at 22. Then two ring bearers and two flower girls, and we’re at 26. Tack on three hostesses and two ushers, and the number is now 31. Don’t forget our two, yes two, officiants, and we’re at 33. Don’t forget Daddy Kettle, Mr. Kettle, and me. That makes 36! Yup. Thirty-six people. I want to take this time to answer comments I’ve gotten on previous posts. The question was about our hostesses and ushers and what exactly they are. Some people double groomsmen as ushers, helping to seat people as they arrive to the ceremony. That’s not the case with us. Momma Kettle, ever the etiquette stickler (I get it honest, you know, so I know exactly what to rebel against), tells us we should have one usher/hostess for every 50 guests. This is particularly important when our venue is at a house that has thousands of square feet spread over three stories. We’ll need people to help get all those people into the ballroom conservatory for the ceremony, out to the rest of the house for cocktail hour, then back into the ballroom for the reception. They’ll need to know where to sit and when. The mansion provides staff to do this, but having extra people on hand could only help out. Think of a combination between a hostess at a restaurant and a regular usher at a wedding, and that’s what our hostesses and ushers will be. Why not make them honorary bridesmaids and groomsmen? Well, because then they’d get their names on the programs and we’d get no work out of them! Just kidding, but I know they’d want to be involved more than just in name. One of our hostesses is my niece, Hostess Cheery, who’s 19 and too old to be a junior bridesmaid. The other is a high school girl I mentor, Hostess High, who’s friendly with Mr. Kettle ever since they were both in the wedding I met Mr. Kettle at last summer. The third is one of his nieces, FNIL Sniffles, who’s in college and is also too old to be a junior bridesmaid. One of our ushers is my god-brother and the other is Mr. Kettle’s cousin. They’re both in high school. Our wedding has been used as a tool to accommodate all our close family and friends that have been in our lives for a long time. Besides the flowers girls and ring bearers who are both six years old, we’ve known everybody in our wedding party at least 10 years (including the officiants). So, yeah, there are a lot of folks, but they’re our close friends. We’re both just super friendly people who are close to our families. It happens. Soooo many people. Judging by the engagement party, I know our wedding will be exactly what we want: a big party that includes all the people we love and cherish. I will now stop alluding to our engagement party and actually give recaps in my next posts.”


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